Why We Do It….

FAMS original team of Volunteers and Co-founders; June 2014

Fams original volunteers

The charity is unique in that ALL 35 volunteers have “lived personal experience” of losing a loved one to murder/suicide. Alternatively they will have personal experience of suicidal thoughts or behaviours. This uniqueness allows FAMS to provide “Lived Experience Peer Support” in its truest form. The charity can produce evidence/case studies that this approach can and has, changed and saved lives.

Although FAMS is based in  Lanarkshire, which has the third highest rate of suicides from the 14 Health Board Areas in Scotland, the Charity referrals from all over Scotland and the UK. Government statistics indicate that 250,000 people in Scotland have suicidal thoughts each day and that’s only the reported incidents. Research points out  that the impact of traumatic grief can lead to a sharp decline in one’s mental and physical health; additionally the possibility of early mortality.

A Special Scar

The death of a loved one can cause great pain and sadness whatever the cause of death.

However when a loved one has died through murder or suicide, it’s a devastating double tragedy.  Not only will they have the shock of the unexpected death, they also have the trauma of the manner of the death, sometimes through violent circumstances.  The bereaved often struggle with a complex range of additional pressures, and emotions including; deep shock, guilt, self-blame, trauma and anger.

Loss of Hope

YOU may feel isolated, vulnerable and alone in your distress.

YOU may find yourself under scrutiny from the police, public and media, all asking too many unanswerable questions.

YOU may feel life will never be the same, you may lose all hope of feeling “normal” ever again.

YOU may have suicidal thoughts … ………

We listen, understand & care

YOU are not alone in your grief and confusion. FAMS volunteers and Befrienders will support you rebuild a ‘new normal life.